How To Change My Life?

If you’re anything like me you’d stay up super late and think of all these ways you were going to get your life together the next day and then you go to sleep, wake up and BAM!

You fall right back into your old patterns or habits and don’t do any of it. 

News flash! 

That’s okay! 

I used to feel terrible when I would wake up and fall back into my old habits. Sometimes worse than I did the day before. But something I learned on my personal development journey, it's actually normal! 

You don’t just magically become an entirely different person overnight. You’ve spent years becoming who you are today. That doesn’t go away with one night of brainstorming a plan of what to do and how to “fix” everything, or coming up with the “perfect” routine. A lot of what we do is subconscious.

Pick just one of those things you came up with on your list and start working towards doing that everyday. Focus on getting consistent with it daily–or whatever your plan is for that thing, daily, three times a week, etc.

I know, I know! We want to get it allllll perfect right meow!

But that’s not how it works. It takes time to become a new version of ourselves. And it’s completely normal to fall back into old patterns and habits in the process of becoming that new version. 

You’re actually setting yourself up for failure and ruining what little trust you may have in yourself by thinking you can just do it all differently the next day and consistently keep at it. 

“Life is a marathon, not a sprint.”

This is why I constantly tell clients “life is a marathon, not a sprint.” You wouldn’t expect to run a marathon tomorrow if you haven’t even ran one mile all the way through since grade school. 

You gotta work up slowly to it months before the marathon.

You’d start going for short walks, then longer walks and running short distances, slowly building up your ability to run a full marathon. The same applies for improving ourselves and developing new habits. 

Social media has conditioned us to crave instant gratification. But I promise the process of becoming someone new over a period of time, and recognizing that growth within ourselves, feels just as good if not BETTER than instant gratification.

So pick one thing you think would be the easiest for you to accomplish daily and consistently stick to and work towards that.

Don’t shame or criticize yourself if you mess up. That only hinders you more too. Be nice with yourself. The same way you would speak to someone you greatly admire and love. Whether that’s a best friend, a pet, a child, or a parent, etc..

So try to stop the shame, blame, or guilting yourself because I’ve found that just perpetuates a cycle of unsustainable change. True change comes from a place of love and acceptance, or curiosity at the minimum.

Criticizing yourself (or shaming/blaming/guilting) isn’t good for you or your nervous system because you’re making yourself feel unsafe. And when you’re changing, your brain already tells you “that’s unsafe.” So you’re creating even more resistance and making it even more difficult for yourself than it already is.

Once you have consistently done the new thing and feel comfortable with it-–whether that’s a few weeks, a month, or a few months—choose another thing to add into your new routine and habits. 

Build up consistency with that new habit and continue the process! Before you know it, your life will be significantly different than where you were when you first started!

Remember: be patient and gentle with yourself, celebrate your progress along the way, and you deserve to be loved unconditionally (and that starts inside of you)! 

So much love,

Jordan xo