When you have spent years developing your emotional intelligence and your emotional maturity, it can be so annoying and incredibly exhausting to deal with somebody who lacks emotional intelligence.
Where everything turns into a hissy fit, everything requires a tantrum.
It’s exhausting to be around those kinds of people.
Where they don't put something back where it belongs, like in a box, in the coat closet.
So that way they can always find it when they need it so they're ready to grab and go in a second versus having to look for it in their mess.
And instead of taking accountability for the mess of them throwing things everywhere, they blame you for a mess
I don’t know if this is just an ADHD thing, but even when there’s a lot of things or when something might look like a mess, but I know where almost everything is.
I've been like this since I was a child, where my room might have looked a little messy, but I knew where everything was down to the paper clip behind the door, in the crack,
I always knew exactly where something was when I needed it.
And it’s just incredibly draining when you've spent years cultivating emotional intelligence in yourself to have to be around individuals that refuse to regulate their emotions.
It's not that serious.
I don't know if it's because I’ve seen a lot of stuff in my life or experienced a lot of stuff in my life from the death of a parent, to working in the medical field and experiencing a lot of death in that sense, being homeless, or dealing with abusers.
So many of these other things we make out to be a big deal, especially when we haven’t worked on emotional regulation, and it's not that serious.
It's not that big a deal.
It might feel like a big of a deal because we struggle with emotional regulation, but it does not deserve any kind of volatile reaction towards other people.
The feelings are valid, but making other people pay for your emotions or expecting them to manage them is never valid.
And what can you do to change that if you're constantly struggling to find things.
Assign a place for your things, if it doesn't already have one, and make sure that you do not put it down if it's not in that place.
Whether that’s a box in the coat closet for gloves, mitts, stocking caps.
Hooks by the door or a little bowl on the counter for your keys.
Assign things a place and make sure to always put them back in that place.
It saves so much time in the future.
